Are you an adult with High-Functioning Autism or Asperger's? Are you struggling emotionally, socially, spiritually or otherwise?
Although the answer to this question may seem simple, it recurs with alarming regularity on aspie forums everywhere. Emotional Behavior in Aspies Aspies are very capable of loving but they often confuse the issue by adopting an altogether too rigid view of love.
Despite popular mis-belief, aspies are generally fairly emotional beings. We have intense feelings of happiness and even more intense feelings of sadness. The smallest triggers can produce huge emotional responses in us.
While a bad day at work may make an NT grumpy, it could make an aspie feel suicidal. Similarly, when something good happens an aspie may seem to be over-reacting or overly happy. Aspies seem to categorize love as one of those mostly unattainable permanent states of extreme happiness directed at a single person.
Expectations of Love When an aspie who has experienced love in this manner discusses the question of "what is love" with his or her NT partner, they may be quite disappointed with the response.
The same is true for NT partners who shout or scowl a lot. Similarly, as mature relationships cool off, the aspie may mistake the loss of the "constant euphoria" sensation as a withdrawal of love. When this happens, they will need a lot of reassurance.
This is particularly important when you have your first child.
There are widely documented cases of partners husbands particularly who feel "squeezed out" of the relationship with the birth of children and subsequent change of focus to concentrate on the child. For an aspie, this change of focus is even more extreme.
Summing up I guess the main point of this post is that aspies can certainly give and receive love but that their expectations are often too high or too focussed to enable them to be properly receptive.
It also takes a very special kind of NT to give an aspie the sort of love they need.initiativeblog.com: Eating an Artichoke: A Mother's Perspective on Asperger Syndrome (): Echo R Fling, Tony Attwood: Books. Cary Terra, M.A., LMFT Seattle, WA, United States I am a psychotherapist in private practice in Seattle, Washington.
I specialize in working with adults with Autism Spectrum Disorder. The Lost Child: Invisible and Unheard. Posted by Louise Behiel in adult children, Louise Behiel, recovery, self help | comments.
The third of the four roles is the Lost Child. Remember, in a family with an emotionally absent parent, the other parent is focused on the ‘missing’ one.
The answer is ‘yes’ – but the adult’s meltdown-behavior looks a bit different than a child’s. Under severe enough stress, any normally calm and collected individual may become “out . A lot of men with Asperger’s (AS) – also called “high functioning autism” – have never been diagnosed and are regarded as being eccentric, a little odd or loners.
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